How To Get What You Want … in 7 easy steps



            “Big results require big ambitions.” – Heraclitus

In life, the things you need don’t just come to you; you need to pull them in. Most often, this process of bringing in the goods can determine if you emerge successful in life, or not. I know that you want to be successful. You need to get what you want to become successful.

Those who become successful, getting what they want in life, often follow some sort of formula, knowingly or unknowingly. There is no specific formula, though. But by keen observation, you can figure out a given pattern which you can follow.

So, have you got a formula for getting what you want? It may not be necessary for you to develop an ‘original’ formula. You only need to pick an observed pattern, modify, and adapt it to suit your situation. This approach will give you more power and control over the outcome of your initiatives than just waiting for whatever fate throws at you.

Over the years, by keen observation and experience, I have seen a pattern after which a powerful model for getting what you want may be developed. The pattern is a simple 7-step formula which you can easily tweak and personalize. Each step in the 7-step process can be expanded, adjusted or collapsed to accommodate personal preferences, depending on your needs and disposition.

In the succeeding paragraphs, you are given the 7-step formula. All you need to do is take it and use it to secure what you want.

Define what you want.

Set a goal. There is no way you can get what you want if you don’t even know what you want. So, the first thing you need do is to define, clearly, what you really want. Being specific about what you want – your goal – will help seriously.

Consider a situation where you need money. Don’t say “I need money,” rather, say, “I need Twenty million naira.” Better still, you can say, “I need Twenty million naira for investment in a bakery.” This is being specific: defining what you want, clearly.

When you do this, your faculties receive the signals that you have picked your preferred target. All the resources within and without you will begin to align to bring what you want closer to you. If you hold this picture of what you want long enough, it becomes part of your consciousness, turning you into some sort of magnet that draws your goal to you.

Create a plan.

Having defined what you want, you need to create a plan. A plan helps you see – on paper – what you conceptualized mentally. It helps create a path in the thick jungle. No matter how fuzzy, a plan is better than no plan in the journey to the attainment of your goal.

Imagine a situation where you want to publish a book that is 50,000 words long. You can create a plan where you write 1000 words daily for 50 days. These 1000 words can be written in two parts: 500 before going to work and 500 after work, that’s assuming that you are in a 9-5 work schedule.

A plan creates a path to follow through to your goal. Create one today.

Check the cost.

Every goal that you set to achieve comes with a price. You must be ready to pay this price in order to achieve the goal. A student who seeks to make first class must be ready to pay the price of sitting down to study, instead of getting engaged in parties and other activities not connected or aligned with his ultimate goal.  The writer who seeks to write a book must be ready to sit down and write while his friends go golfing over the weekend. The economists call it the opportunity cost.

If you are not ready to pay the price, you may not reach your goal. You need to decide now if you can pay the cost to attain your goal, to get what you want.

Perform a self-assessment test.

You need to assess yourself in order to decide if you can pay the price needed to attain your goal. As you cannot give what you do not have, you can only pay the price based on your abilities and aptitudes. You cannot pay the price with weaknesses.

For you to identify your areas of weaknesses and strengths, you need to perform S.W.O.T. analysis of self and the system you wish to deploy in reaching your goal. This analysis shows the Strength and Weaknesses that you have, and the Opportunities and Threats facing the vehicle you intend to use to achieve you goal. For instance, a good writer may not be necessarily a fast typist; he may not even know how to type. While good writing is his strength, typing speed is his weakness.

The result of the S.W.O.T. analysis shouldn’t scare you. It is meant to give you information with which you can take informed decisions for best results. Take note of your strengths as well as your weaknesses as you move to the next step in the 7-step formula.

Assemble your team.

You cannot attain your goal by doing it all alone. You need a team. The team that you are going to set up must be such that its composition complements your weaknesses, while reinforcing your strengths. For instance, a good writer – but slow typist – who wants to publish, needs a fast typist in his team. A good actress, who is not good at making deals, needs a good manager. And so it continues.

Team building is an art which must be learned, practiced and carefully applied in order to get what you want. One wrong pick can sink the whole ship. So, select carefully. In this regard, my friend in management will say, “slow to hire; quick to fire.”

But in all your selection for the team, do not forget to make God a permanent and non-negotiable voting member of your team. In fact, make Him the head.

Execute the plan.

Nobody is going to write the book for you. Nobody is going to lift that weight for you. Nobody is going to set up that business for you. You have to step out and do it, yourself. And you can only do it by acting on the beautiful plan that you had laid out.

This is the step that holds down a lot of would-be achievers for so long. This is the step that has filled the cemetery with men buried with their untapped potentialities.

To help act on your plan, I will recommend that you combine two powerful systems that will help manage your time efficiently and maximize your resources. The first is the 43 Folders System (the Tickler File system of the US Navy), and the second is the single-tasking approach to managing workload. These two systems, when combined, will fast-track your productivity, moving you speedily towards your goal.

Rise, Rinse, and Repeat.

This is the last step in the process. Repeat the execution of your plan until your goal is met. It is a process and you need to be passionate to sustain it. Therefore, your goal, or what you want, must be something that you are passionate about in order to be able to rise, rinse and repeat the process as many times as possible, without being disenchanted.

You now have the steps to getting what you want. Start using them today.



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